Unemployed: The pressure

Hey fam. I’m about to roast you here, but it’s all with love

So as soon as you leave school, most people are hoping that you get a job as soon as you possibly can. Of course there are so many people that don’t go the employment way but this is to the employment folks. For most people, from the day you leave school, to the day you actually get to secure employment, you will spend every other day job hunting. Having recently completed school, I have obviously been on the job hunt side of life so basically I am airing my sentiments from experience – haha! and the process is faaaar from interesting.

Let me tell you why, everyone and their mother will be on your case about it. Mostly indirectly and though they mean well, the resultant pressure is not funny. Those comments of  ‘”Usijali, utapata kazi tu”, “don’t worry, God will make a way” can feel heartbreaking and sad . Maybe you’re not even looking for a job, or you’re looking at totally different opportunities but noooo…. You need to be employed ASAP. Some messages of reassurance are always welcome, but when every time you meet some people all they do is ask about your employment status then send some motivational statements your way, you’re going to feel pressured.

Lets say you’ve been sending applications to several places. In the fortunate event you get an an interview call.. This is how things go down..

So your interview is on day X, if your people are anything like my relatives, they will need to approve of your outfit, your makeup, your hair etc which is amazing!! Mine are so extra you just might go shopping for some outfits. They will all wake you up early (my grandmother included) just to ensure you’re not late, they will call you at the time they presume you should leave the house and about 20 minutes to the interview time to ensure you made it in good time. My family is bomb, right?! All the concern… I love them to bits.

In the event you have something like a presentation or a pitch as part of your interview, you will need to run it through some of them and even present it to them, you know, for practice and to get their feedback in case you need to make some modifications. In short they have done their best to ensure you’re well prepared, so if things don’t go well for you, you have very many people to deliver disappointing news to… and that’s where the pressure comes in. If no one knew about it, it would just slide away quietly.

There’s also a bunch of people who just …I don’t even know how to put it. One, you’re not that close but they are probably related to you somehow and know that you are jobless. You normally don’t talk much but now because you are unemployed they only contact you to ask whether you actually got a job. And if you say no, get ready to receive all the unwarranted advice the world has to offer. They will advice you on how to structure your resume, how much perfume to wear during an interview etc. So basically, you don’t have a job because you wear too much perfume. Of course, some help is most definitely appreciated but some people are just too much with it. And they got all this info off the internet and you probably already have this information because you looked it up too.

Basically, what I’m trying to say is if someone is actually seeking a job, they already have enough internal pressure. Sometimes all people want is just a day without having someone point out the fact that they don’t have a job.

No one likes to be broke, so trust me, they’re looking.









12 Comments Add yours

  1. Angel Lou says:

    I can relate though it’s been so hard for me to be unemployed.

    Please go check my blog, I wrote about being unemployed which is based to my situation right now.



  2. lilesosanna says:

    Reblogged this on Job Path and commented:
    Family are important when you are unemployed, check out Sally’s family in her blog

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Edith M. says:

    Seriously the story of my life!!!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. S.Nyambura says:

      Lol, they need to give you a break sometimes.


  4. Aunt jules says:

    Baby we only do it out of love coz we love you. Pole we didn’t mean to pressure you…..we promise to go easy on you. Love you😘


    1. S.Nyambura says:

      haha, with love. Love you more!!!!


  5. Sue kihara says:

    We mean no harm sweetheart, we only do it out of love . Sorry we didn’t know we pressure you that much pole mama no more pressure.


    1. S.Nyambura says:

      I love you more mama!!!


  6. sophieriziki says:

    oh trust me we’ve all been there. thankfully half the time my family is usually too far away to notice when i go for my interviews, Sometimes the pressure isn’t even that you want a job. All we want is money. Doesn’t matter whether it comes via business or a job.


  7. Kabiru Mariana says:

    I like the read….your family…🤔🤔…

    Liked by 1 person

  8. James M says:

    I relate…been there! Great advice.👍


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